3 Ingredients Every Recovery Friendship Needs [Quiz]

Friend 1: “I messed up the other day, ummm actually yeah it was today…” Friend  2: “Yeah me too…I’m not feeling great about it” Friend  3: “Yeah, so…it was a bad week for me too.  See you next week?” If you have ever been in this sort of group, for a porn or sex addiction, you know that it can … Read More

Do They Want It Just As Bad as You?

Welcome to our series 3 Ingredients Every Recovery Friendship Needs.  If you haven’t already, take our quiz “How Healthy is Your Recovery Community?”   Ingredient #1: Equal Need and Equal Availability   Sometimes people in recovery ask me if they can rely on their pastor, priest or their therapist as an accountability partner (AP).  I do think that having guides … Read More

5 Ways to Help An Addict

  So, an addict has asked for your help. Now what? First, recognize the brave step that person took and acknowledge it to them.   Most people who struggle with a porn problem or a sex addiction don’t want to talk about it.   Second, consider this a test.     The person who wants you to be a guide … Read More

Get There Faster: How Guides Accelerate Recovery

  Guides Are Essential Isn’t it true that we often try harder and succeed more often when someone with experience is leading us?   Teachers, coaches, and mentors can all get us to our destinations more quickly than by ourselves. Guides are essential in life.  Especially, in recovery.      Yet, many people in recovery underutilize them.  Why is that? For … Read More