A Simple Formula for Recovery Success

The other day I saw a guy working on a narrow walkway only one floor up from the ground, but he had a rope connecting him to the building.   At first I thought “that’s a bit overkill, it’s not that dangerous” but then I watched him more and realized he was pretty smart.   By knowing he was connected … Read More

3 Ingredients Every Recovery Friendship Needs [Quiz]

Friend 1: “I messed up the other day, ummm actually yeah it was today…” Friend  2: “Yeah me too…I’m not feeling great about it” Friend  3: “Yeah, so…it was a bad week for me too.  See you next week?” If you have ever been in this sort of group, for a porn or sex addiction, you know that it can … Read More

Do They Want It Just As Bad as You?

Welcome to our series 3 Ingredients Every Recovery Friendship Needs.  If you haven’t already, take our quiz “How Healthy is Your Recovery Community?”   Ingredient #1: Equal Need and Equal Availability   Sometimes people in recovery ask me if they can rely on their pastor, priest or their therapist as an accountability partner (AP).  I do think that having guides … Read More

The Key to Compassionate Confrontations

Welcome to our series 3 Ingredients Every Recovery Friendship Needs.  If you haven’t already take our quiz “How Healthy is Your Recovery Community?”  We’ve talked about the importance of equal need and availability between recovery friends.  Now, we’ll help you learn how to compassionately confront your friends when they are faltering in their recovery journey.   Ingredient #2: Carefrontations (definition: … Read More