Freedom Is

Freedom Is A Series of thoughts on the idea of freedom from an addict’s perspective. Freedom is not blaming others. Freedom is not demanding. Freedom is not focusing only on behavior. Freedom is not control. Freedom is not hierarchy.   Freedom is embracing beauty. Freedom is accepting limitations. Freedom is saying I don’t know. Freedom is saying no. Freedom is … Read More

Opposite of Addiction Is NOT Sobriety [VIDEO]

Opposite of Addiction Is NOT Sobriety This is one of the most important videos on addiction in the last couple of years.  In it Johann Hari shares the new evidence on addiction.  His research on addiction has radical implications for how we as individuals and as a society should relate to addicts.   Here’s the take away: 1)   Have greater … Read More

Darkness and Discovery

Darkness and Discovery A Series of thoughts on the idea of freedom from an addict’s perspective. Not every day is full of discovery. The relentless pursuit of your questions is a worthy struggle. Exploration of the unknown makes discovery possible. Making friends with uncertainty, risk, danger, and darkness, while taking courageous action, is the surest way to experience breakthroughs. Friendship … Read More

3 Ingredients Every Recovery Friendship Needs [Quiz]

Friend 1: “I messed up the other day, ummm actually yeah it was today…” Friend  2: “Yeah me too…I’m not feeling great about it” Friend  3: “Yeah, so…it was a bad week for me too.  See you next week?” If you have ever been in this sort of group, for a porn or sex addiction, you know that it can … Read More

Do They Want It Just As Bad as You?

Welcome to our series 3 Ingredients Every Recovery Friendship Needs.  If you haven’t already, take our quiz “How Healthy is Your Recovery Community?”   Ingredient #1: Equal Need and Equal Availability   Sometimes people in recovery ask me if they can rely on their pastor, priest or their therapist as an accountability partner (AP).  I do think that having guides … Read More