Seed Dreaming

Seed Dreaming A Series of thoughts on the idea of freedom from an addict’s perspective. Dream big in the night. Planting seeds of success in the day You will sleep sweetly.   When you wake tomorrow Let your waking breath Give life and hope to others.   A growing tree of transformation, Bearing fruit of faith In the wild.   … Read More

The Pain of the Should

The pain of the should A Series of thoughts on the idea of freedom from an addict’s perspective.   Oh the harshness, the hatred, the self-loathing we put ourselves through! Oh the pain of “the Shoulds” that reign supreme yet live stealthily in our lives. “Shoulds” lord it over us. We let them pass into our hearts unguarded, without question … Read More

Addiction is a Lonely Liar

Addiction is a Lonely Liar I was trapped. I wanted desperately to escape. Like a trapped animal I would have chewed off my leg if it meant my freedom. Yet no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t escape my own destructive behavior. But I tried. At some point I did everything I could to escape: fasting, prayer, reading books, … Read More

Freedom & Work

Freedom & Work A Series of thoughts on the idea of freedom from an addict’s perspective. What will you do with your freedom? This is a crucial question. You are more free than you give yourself credit for. Give yourself permission to live out what you truly, deeply want. Show up. Do the work. Dream big. Now dream bigger. Freedom … Read More

9 Questions to Ask On Your Next Date

Try Connecting in a New Way When it comes to recovery from a porn or sex addiction the focus is often on what’s unhealthy.  For sure, we want rTribe to be a place where you can learn how to stop destructive behaviors. But, we don’t want to stop there.  We want to help you learn to replace those destructive behaviors … Read More

Secrets Spoken

Secrets Spoken A Series of thoughts on the idea of freedom from an addict’s perspective. Unsaid secrets weigh you with worry, Imprison you with shit storms of shame, Smear you with the dung of contempt.   Feed the lie of your hidden self Repugnant growth, Sprouting seeds of sorrow so dark.   Isolation gives undead life To the skeleton writhing … Read More

Freedom Is

Freedom Is A Series of thoughts on the idea of freedom from an addict’s perspective. Freedom is not blaming others. Freedom is not demanding. Freedom is not focusing only on behavior. Freedom is not control. Freedom is not hierarchy.   Freedom is embracing beauty. Freedom is accepting limitations. Freedom is saying I don’t know. Freedom is saying no. Freedom is … Read More

Opposite of Addiction Is NOT Sobriety [VIDEO]

Opposite of Addiction Is NOT Sobriety This is one of the most important videos on addiction in the last couple of years.  In it Johann Hari shares the new evidence on addiction.  His research on addiction has radical implications for how we as individuals and as a society should relate to addicts.   Here’s the take away: 1)   Have greater … Read More

Darkness and Discovery

Darkness and Discovery A Series of thoughts on the idea of freedom from an addict’s perspective. Not every day is full of discovery. The relentless pursuit of your questions is a worthy struggle. Exploration of the unknown makes discovery possible. Making friends with uncertainty, risk, danger, and darkness, while taking courageous action, is the surest way to experience breakthroughs. Friendship … Read More

3 Ingredients Every Recovery Friendship Needs [Quiz]

Friend 1: “I messed up the other day, ummm actually yeah it was today…” Friend  2: “Yeah me too…I’m not feeling great about it” Friend  3: “Yeah, so…it was a bad week for me too.  See you next week?” If you have ever been in this sort of group, for a porn or sex addiction, you know that it can … Read More